Tuesday, March 31st, 2009 |
by Hitched Chick

Men are nothing if not creative. Some of the time-buying excuses they come up with are almost poetic: “What we have can’t be defined by a label,” “We should just live in the moment,” “Let’s let things happen organically.” These dodge tactics can be hard to navigate, but as they say, “don’t drink the Kool-Aid.” Label evasion is just code for “You’re not the one.”
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When it comes to classifying your relationship, it’s about much more than a label; it’s about you and your guy being on the same page. If casual dating is what you want, then a label doesn’t matter. But, if you’re looking to settle down, label-phobic men are not an option. When you find yourself stumbling through the commitment/label dance, please know that there is a big difference between a guy who wants to take things slowly and a guy who wants to have his cake and eat it too.
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Any man who wants to be with you is going to want other men to know that you’re spoken for. It doesn’t matter what the label is—girlfriend, wifey, boo—but even men know that a label is the most effective way of informing other interested people that you’re off the market. If an exclusive commitment is what you want, but you’ve been convinced (read: brainwashed) into thinking that a label doesn’t matter, you’ll never get one. (more…)