…Says The Single Girl: IF YOU’RE A BIG GIRL, CHANCES ARE YOU’RE A SLUT

“All fat girls are sluts.”

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, then again since it was coming from Dallas I really could believe it. Dallas is a dear friend, of the gay persuasion and is living with a girl roommate who is obese, damn near 40 and the mother of all whores. She has a boyfriend who has a girlfriend and doesn’t care. She sleeps with a rotation of at least seven men with a couple of new one offs each week. Since Dallas never lived with a woman before, he is convinced that the way Ms. Fat Booty gets down is the way all women get down.

“If you lived with me and saw me bring home a different boy every night you’ll think that all gay men are nasty. Well, she is the only woman I’ve lived with and because of her, I think all women are nasty. Especially fat ones. They are all sluts.”

Dallas explained this theory with some convincing points.

“When I’m in the barbershop all men talk about how they would never fuck a fat bitch but someone is getting them pregnant. Why do you think you see all these fat single mothers pushing strollers with their fat back exposed in their two sizes too small Dereon jeans? After dark, when no one is looking dudes creep on over to their fat girl’s house. He dare not be seen with her in public and he knows that sexually he can do whatever he wants to do. Fat girls’ self-esteem is so low that 99% of them will let a dude go raw, take it in every hole and not complain too much cause they don’t want to lose who they think is their man.”

I raised these points to several of my man friends and surprisingly, LADIES, all of them agreed.

“Fat girls have nothing to loose. They want the attention of a man bad enough that they will sell themselves short.” – Manny, a man friend

How is attributed to fat girls and not all girls with low self-esteem?

Slutting yourself out, in my opinion, has more to do with wanting to feel valued and appreciated than it does with your waistline. But the two may be connected:

You are fat…

…therefore…

You have low self-esteem…

…which means…

You are super open when a man shows interest…

…subsequently…

You fall for him and whatever he tells you…

…thereby…

Allowing him to get the draws…

…resulting in…

You brokenhearted and burying your sorrow in a 10-piece box of Popeye’s

The cycle continues.

If there is any truth to Dallas’ theory, I’m worried about young girls who are falling victim to fat induced low self-esteem. They are the ones who are truly screwed. They are the ones who are popping out babies like a PEZ dispenser.

“If fat girls are sluts, what are the men who take advantage of them?” I asked Dallas.

“Child, a man will fuck anything. They are just men.”

SG
Bravely read the rest of her dating tips for Parlouristas here. Do you have a story to tell or a question for Single Girl? You can reach her directly at SingleGirlNotes@gmail.com. Don’t be shy!

Get updates from SG @ TWITTER.COM/The_Single_Girl or check out her site www.saysthesinglegirl.com

Last 5 posts by The Single Girl

  • excuse me, i had to take a few deep breaths before i commented. yeah, i’ve heard this before. just like i heard this about dark-skin girls. or girls without daddies. or girls who feel they have too much or too little of whatever. women with low self-esteem will accept all kinds of trifling behavior. the thing is all plus sized women do not have low self-esteem. however, society tries to get women to believe that they should feel bad about themselves if they are not a size 6. just like you should feel bad if you can’t be described as honey brown or didn’t grow up with your father or live in the hood (like any of these things are your fault). and even when we know better, that concept gets perpetuated in how we interact with each other. that dark-skinned, chubby girl named shaqueda gets treated like a statistic, even before she makes the mistakes that lead to high-risk status.

    you questioned whether a woman’s weight was related to her feelings of self-value. well, of course it is but it’s not the same for everyone. i don’t know about you but if i’m not feeling how i look, i’m not really in the mood to be touched. and not everyone overeats when they’re feeling depressed or whatever. some don’t eat at all. so, are there conversations going on about slutty anoxeric women?! the whole conversation just reeks of misogyny. (sidenote: some gay men are more misogynistic than straight men…out of envy, i think. i would take everything he said about women with a grain of salt.) if the roommate was slim, would the slutty behavior still be such a problem? weight is just another excuse to treat women poorly.

    your friend was right about one thing though. men, some men, will fuck anything. if the fat chick’s not giving it up, it will be some other victim.

  • Moochie

    You would think that as a gay (is he black?) man your friend wouldn’t subject himself to the stereotypical, judgmental and completely ignorant statements that he’s making. Not only that, to make a blanket statement that all men will fuck anything is completely bogus and holds them to no accountability. Men who will fuck anything also have low self esteem as well as a host of other issues….

  • greg.

    Man it’s too hot for all of that. That’s not fuckin’ that’s *football practice*

  • “If you lived with me and saw me bring home a different boy every night you’ll think that all gay men are nasty.”

    Note to Dallas: Umm…no, dear. I would just think that YOU are nasty. Because I wouldn’t dare stereotype that ALL gay men are nasty because then YOU would call me homophobic.

    I cannot believe he is ignorant enough to believe that just because his roommate does not have any respect for herself, that ALL plus size women are this way.

    Being fat doe NOT equate to having poor self-esteem! Nor does being thin equate to having fabulous self-esteem. I won’t go on about how the media plays into self-image here. But seriously? Dallas, is in need of a serious reality check and a visit with some REAL plus size ladies who are anything BUT what you described. That would be sure to change his thinking.

    Single Girl, can we get a story that now that reflects the OPPOSITE of what Dallas believes? I can lead you in the right direction.

  • Susan

    @ ASHA. How ridiculous of you to compare being overweight to being “dark-skinned” as you put it. (Ummm…what is this “School Daze”??) Being dark skinned is not liability that makes you unattractive and undesirable resulting in low self-esteem. You must be one of those light skinned girls who thinks her shit doesn’t stink. Good luck with that honey. SMH.

  • julius

    for me i like fat girls. thanks