SEX DRIVE: Double your Pleather


A friend of mine recently put me on to $pread Magazine, a magazine by sex workers for sex workers. In browsing $pread‘s blog and talking to my friend, I’ve learned that the magazine is a voice for activism in the sex industry, working to legitimize the profession and break the attached stereotypes. $pread’s blog led me to an article on Fox about more and more women becoming dominatrixes to make ends meet, which pissed the $pread author, Vixen, off (I know, I know, Fox kind of pisses us all off.)

The Fox news article reads:

“With “kink” more mainstream than ever, educated, professional women are putting on their leather. And they have many wondering: What’s the appeal of being a dominatrix?”

…Becoming a dominatrix — a female who takes a dominant role in bondage, discipline, domination and submission — is an attractive option for these women because:

— It offers the convenience of early or night-shift work

— It enables cute women with bodies bigger than the Barbie-esque figure desired of strippers to work in the sex industry

— It provides a woman with the opportunity to flog some of the bankers responsible for the current financial mess

But the fact that they are able to avoid intercourse is the main reason your “average” women in need of cash are going this route.


Vixen’s response to the Fox News story call’s it “irresponsible”:

“As hip as some reporters like to portray kink as being, most of the dommes I know aren’t completely out of the closet. Unfortunately for many there is a stigma attached to the work. Many are worried about losing their mainstream job or their kids or friends if they’re kink side were found out. Simply brushing over the stigma issue by acting like kink is more mainstream is irresponsible.”

My response to all of this:
After living in New York for eight years and having friends who have worked in various aspects of the sex industry, I feel privileged to even have a kindergarten-level understanding of the sex industry. I assume that most people get their sex work information from HBO specials like “Hookers at the Point.” I agree with Vixen that it is a little “irresponsible” to write an article for a mainstream news organization without offering all of the appropriate information. However, throwing the idea out there into the mainstream could get more people to look at dominatrix work as a legitimate way to earn some cash. And while I’ve never thought to throw on some leather and and pack chains in my purse (submission is my thing and I would probably pay someone to kidnap me, since I’ve had no willing volunteers.), I’d tell any one of my girls “good luck and be careful” if she chose to be a domme.

On a side note, the Fox article insinuates that dominatrix work might be better than other sex work because “they are able to avoid intercourse.” I don’t know where I stand on this one. Intercourse is not something that I could share with anyone, but I’d hate to think that I regard myself as “better” than someone who has intercourse listed in their job description.

So, ladies I have questions:

What are your thoughts on dominatrix work?

Have you thought of becoming a dominatrix on the side to increase your cash flow? Would you, after reading this post?

Does the “fact that dominatrixes are able to avoid intercourse” make the job more appealing to you?

P.S. The FOX reporter calls herself the FOXSexpert, and that’s kinda cheesy.

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  • Joelle

    I appreciate this article. It is not surprising to me that FOX with it’s typical conservative views has taken this side jab on this industry. And with that said I believe in professionalism on all levels even if I do not care for the industry, job, or occupation.

    With that said I am in full support of people organizing within the sex industry and have taken an interest in the work that Brazil has been able to achieve. Since so many of the workers put so much of themselves on the line. And so with that said “$pread Magazine” do your thang!

    The sex industry is one of the oldest industries of mankind and when you begin to address why we have it and need it and not ignore it. We will all be able to really know who we are as people.

    Thank You! -J.

  • As a single mom of 2 I’m always looking for ways to bring in more cash.As a result, I did spend 1 summer trying my hand at various gigs in the sex industry.

    NOT having actual intercourse with anyone was a mandatory for me. After doing web-cam, foot fetish and phone sex work I answered an ad for domme work at a dungeon in mid-town. I didn’t get the job but the interview experience was priceless.

    The dry, corporate looking exterior of the office opened up into a dark, richly decorated lair (no other word describes the place best) Half naked college girls walking around in leather panties eating takeout as they waited for their next client was one thing. One of them busting in on my interview talking bout ‘i’m in my 3rd hour with bill and need a break but he’s wrapped head to toe in saran wrap, can you watch him for me while I get something to drink? and make sure he doesn’t cum ok?’ was another. I realized this wasn’t for me when I was told that golden and brown showers were a mandatory part of the job -yuck! (red showers were optional-double yuck!).

    I throw no shade on those who do domme work. If you’re not hurting anyone (or if they’ve asked you to hurt them)and it doesn’t screw with your personal moral code, then what’s the big deal?

  • LOL at the bill story! hilarious…I read that out loud to a room full of men. classic. Honestly, I am seriously thinking of maybe selling panties on the black (pun intended) panty (?) market? Who knows…what was the number to this domme dungeon. this might be the way to go…