A Few Words on Proposition 8…

Image and video hosting by TinyPicYesterday, I was chained to my laptop, hard at work writing about the ins and outs of the American system of higher education. Riveting stuff. But I kept having my attention pulled away by the constantly repeating stories on CNN. Yeah, Sonia Sotomayor got the SCOTUS nomination (yay for the Latina from the BX!) and Kim Jong Il and his buddies are acting a monkey, but it was the California Supreme Court’s decision to uphold Proposition 8 (which banned gay marriage in the state last fall) that had me yelling at the screen.
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Yes, I’m glad they didn’t dissolve the 18,000 legal marriages that were granted last year. And, no, I can’t say I actually expected the court to reverse the ballot measure; the people of California pulled the lever for that one. It was actually the featured “experts” that pissed me off.

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Whether or not you approve of gay and lesbian marriage (remind me again why it’s any of our business to “approve” of it?), I think the pro-marriage argument that forbidding them to marry is a violation of their rights to do what every one else in this country takes for granted is a darn good argument. And on the other side of the issue, I understand someone who quotes their holy book as to why they don’t consider these families to be “real”—religion is a powerful thing.

But when Reverend Myles McPherson, a Black man who tends to a flock of 12,000 in San Diego, said that he opposes gay marriage because in the beginning of this country, marriage was about a man and a woman and that’s the way it should always be, I lost my shit. “In the beginning,” I yelled at the television, “you were considered three-fifths of a man! What if that was the way it should always be?!”

That is all.

How do you feel about the ruling?

—Kenrya

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  • Sal

    i love reading you, kenrya. beautiful point.

  • in a society where same-sex couples are already having commitment ceremonies, referring to each other as a “spouse” or “husband/wife”, having children…and HAVING SEX…I really don’t see what the big deal is for allowing legal marriage to occur.

    Not only has it been a proven stimulus for local economies and small business (weddings costs money, we need money), but happy people tend not to shoot/rape/kill others.

    Religion really has nothing to do with it—it is a purely legal matter of rights and consideration. I’m not slamming religion at all, but when it is a determining factor for law, we stand to lose more than we gain. Religion also kept my ancestors slaves for hundreds of years….

    oh…and K – red lobster soon come!

  • Dom

    Slowly but surely the ban is lifting. Here in Mass, Maine, soon NH and so forth west. Eventually it will be legal everywhere. Prop H8 (thx Urbandictionary word of the day!) is only a stepping stone.

  • John

    I personally don’t have an issue with gay/lesbian folks. I’m in the “do you” crowd as far as their lifestyle goes.

    I think that the preacher’s argument is a weak one if you take the bible/law of the land out of it. At this countries inception they both worked hand in hand and in today’s climate they don’t hold much weight as far as arguments go.

    Now if you’re talking about civil rights and comparing people of African descent to homosexual culture/living then I think we’re getting into apples and oranges territory. They have two different histories upon close inspection.

    It’s a great debate to have though. Great columns by the way, Kenrya. 🙂

  • AB

    I am opposed to same sex marriage. Give them a civil union and call it a day, allow them the rights and all that stuff that comes with it. Just dont call it a marriage. That is still reserved for man and woman.

  • julie

    to comment on John’s post— i don’t think that slavery is being compared to being gay, not at all (and yes, I agree, apples and oranges). The point being made is that you cannot stay still, humanity, society, life, laws have to move forward with the progress in different fields. If people wouldn’t fight for what’s right, and what makes sense, no progress would ever happen, and we still would of been living in the dark ages. Saying “lets just leave things the way they were” is ignorant and close minded, and lacking any common sense what so ever. And really really stupid argument, it’s like saying that the “Earth is flat” just because it was said from the beginning…

    I think that it is not up to us to “approve” what’s right for other people when it comes to legitimizing their union, and if they feel the need to legitimize their union by the marriage certificate, we shouldn’t have the power to not let them. Just ‘cuz we said so…

  • Van

    Love your column. . .

    I am not in agreement with the marriage part, you are correct, religion is a powerful thing. . .however, what will be will be.

    I am very happy about our President’s of Sotomayor for Supreme Court Justice. Many people are against it, but they forget that all past president’s have installed justices that have similar views as their own. . .

    Keep up the Great Work Sis!!

  • Van

    Love your column. . .

    I am not in agreement with the marriage part, you are correct, religion is a powerful thing. . .however, what will be will be.

    I am very happy about our President’s appointment of Sotomayor for Supreme Court Justice. Many people are against it, but they forget that all past president’s have installed justices that have similar views as their own. . .

    Keep up the Great Work Sis!!

  • @Julie: Yes, exactly! I’m not at all comparing the struggles, just saying that without progress, we are nothing…

    @Sal, John and Van: Thanks; ‘ppreciate you joining the conversation!

    @jbakes: Just give me a date and I’m there!

    @ everyone else (I can’t leave anyone out, lol!): I dig it, and I’m so glad you took the time to comment. Everyone’s opinion matters ’round here!