This was no perfect plan. Nothing ever ran smoothly. There were always problems but for the most part both parties were satisfied.
At the top of the year, I burned all contracts and have been a free agent.
Then, last week I received an IM from a guy I know pretty well.
â€œSG, I really am attracted to you. Iâ€™m not good at dating right now. The recession has me screwed up but I wonâ€™t mind having a no-strings attached romp with you.â€
Folks, this is no way to negotiate a lover.
There is a course of action that must take place: (you know I love my lists)
1 – prior to drafting up a lover contract you must hang out with your prospect solo and in public. This allows you to see how they behave as a normal person. What you get behind closed doors isnâ€™t who they truly are. Thatâ€™s their sexual being. By getting to seem them in the outside world you wonâ€™t become tricked into think who they are in the bedroom is them all the time. Sweet lovers can be asses in public and vice versa.
2 – you have to like your prospect lover as a person and friend. Who wants to lay next to someone you donâ€™t like or respect.
3 – learn what your lover likes. Donâ€™t try too much, too soon and ruin what might have been a great partnership in the bed room
4 – discuss your exit plan. What will you do if things turn ugly. Who will be the bigger person?
Needless to say, I plan on turning down his offer. The market is shakey and Iâ€™d rather wait until I have a sure thing.
…Says The Single Girl
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