Something New

50sflirtLiving in New York, where we walk the streets on a daily basis, it’s nothing to receive the typical, “Hey shorty,” (in Bed Stuy), “Good Morning, Mami,” (in Washington Heights), or “Greetings, my Princess,” (in Flatbush) by our African American or Latino brothers.  It’s just what they do.  Whether alone or with a group of friends, for some reason, they feel the need to express themselves when they see a beautiful woman walk down the street.  Sometimes it’s flattering—sometimes it’s annoying, especially when you’re not in the mood to respond and they feel the need to express themselves even further. But I digress.  I always noticed that white men, whether they thought you were beautiful or not, just did not do that.  Maybe you’ll get a smile, but for the most part, they typically keep it moving.  Until this week.

On a beautiful Monday morning, as I walked to my office, (and I must say that I looked quite dapper!), I walk past this white guy, and as I feel his eyes on me, I hear, “Wow, you’re awesome!”  Whoa! Did I just get heckled by a white guy?  This was my first.  I was so surprised that I actually turned around (a typical no-no if this was any other situation) and looked and sure enough he was still looking, smiling ear to ear.

Two days later, my friend tells me that she too experienced her first street heckle by a white guy.  His approach was a bit more aggressive.  After walking by, he blurts out, “You’re beautiful.  Can I give you my number?”  I love it!!!

Hey–I have always known white men who appreciated the beauty of women of color–street heckling just wasn’t their thing.  Are the waves starting to turn?

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  • Steely D

    LOL! I love it… “you’re awesome!” = “What it do shawty”

  • Nebraska Blaque

    My blame it on the a a a alcohol moment:

    I was in a nice upscale club in the South where a white brother came up to me and said, “Wow I never thought I’d see such a beautiful Bllllaaaa… I mean woman like you out tonight.” I said, “It’s Ok you can say it. I am Black.” I smiled and winked just to be sassy. He kept smiling and never went in for the kill. I guess he only had enough of an alcohol induced buzz to just speak his mind, but not to ask for the number or a dance. I wonder if white men will ever get up the nerve to stand up for what they consider HOT and FLY covered in Chocolate or if they will simply sit on the sidelines and covet for the darker fruit? They know they are fans. ;-)But I wont be holding my breath… I love all my Black American Latino Carribean African men around the globe who knows what’s up and will shout from the roof tops the glory of my Crown. I’m good!

  • Dom

    The tide done turned! Usually on the streets of Boston its “Sistah! Sistah…” White dudes here are getting bolder. Unfortunately they’re also still a bit corny with it (ie. “you’re awesome”) Come harder white chocolate!

  • JoeBmore

    The question is.

    Do you feel honored by the heckling of white men opposed to brown men?

  • @JoeBmore: To answer your question–I don’t feel “honored” necessarily. It’s just something to be noticed–a mere observation.