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Good Christian Girls Donâ€™t Have Sexâ€¦
I am a virgin, always have been, but hopefully — cross my fingers and praying fervently! — I will not always remain so. Growing up, the main reason I held onto my virginity was because of my religious beliefs. â€œGood Christian girls donâ€™t have sex if they arenâ€™t married,â€ was drummed into my head from all angles â€“ in Church, in school and at home.
The constant pressure to not have sex, put my virginity on a pedestal. Abstinence was the be all and end all of Christianity and the proud label of a â€œgood girl.” So, being a good girl and wanting Jesus to be proud of me — I have always been somewhat of a pleaser, you see — I have remained completely abstinent.
Yes, I am still a virgin.
Then I got out of Ghana and relocated to the United States. In this liberal, wholly different cultural and social environment, I began to think about and the research different views and opinions and ended up coming up with valid reasons for my beliefs. I am still a virgin, but at least now, its something Iâ€™ve chosen for myself rather than something that was forced upon me.
By: Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah