What Happens to a Dream Deferred?

Four months ago I took a leap of faith….quit my job and traded my Harlem Condo for a quaint flat in the heart of Paris. It has been my dream for years to live in the City of Lights but three things always stopped me:

1. I did not speak a word of French
2. I did not have a job in France
3. See No.1

So when I announced in January that I was moving to Paris, all of my friends were surprised. Why you might ask? Because I still did not speak French and I was going to quit by six figure gig in New York City to become a student in Paris. If I moved I would have to live off of my savings and that, my friend, is a very scary concept.

After much thought I realized that if I waited for all of the stars to align…i.e. me speaking French and some company realizing how fabulous I am (wink) that they’d relocate me to France, I may never go to Paris!

It may seem like a huge leap of faith to relocate to a foreign country but I have always been one to throw caution to the wind in pursuit of my dreams. I am from Chicago and have lived in LA and New York…Paris just seemed like the next logical step. I think of myself a world traveler of sorts, it’s my passion and a favorite pastime. My one college regret was that I didn’t study abroad. I lamented this for years and realized that I spent so much time thinking of what I should have done instead of focusing on what I could do now!

So with the support of family and friends, I boarded a plane, flew 3,600 miles to begin a new chapter of my life! Sometimes I love it and sometimes I don’t, but be sure it’s always an interesting journey here in the City of Lights! So the story is to be continued…Did I ever learn French? Did I find the love of my life and decide to trade my New York City appreciation for Paris forever? Only time will tell. I don’t even know yet, lol! But I’ll definitely keep you posted.

So if money was no object, how would you live your life? Better yet, what is the price of not pursuing dreams? Finally, when will you decide that the cost of a dream deferred is too much? Looking forward to hearing from you!

-Frenched Kissed

The city of lights…love and all things fashionable. FRENCH KISSED is all about the pursuit of the good life in Paris, France. Every week I’ll give you an insider’s view of the hottest expositions, newest restaurants, latest trends along with Paris’s best kept secrets. I’ll give you the key to the city….or at least let you borrow it. If anyone knows the ins and out of getting in where you fit in, it’s FRENCH KISSED. Originally from Chicago—I’ve already lived in LA and New York and now I’m taking Paris by storm. A self described voyeur, I love getting lost in a new part of Paris and discovering why the people who live there call it home. I’m a move and a shaker, so hang on and try to keep up. You might even learn a little French along the way!

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  • i love the idea of this. i can be such a scaredy cat. the price of not pursuing your dreams is not truly living. i guess i ought to keep that in mind.

  • TasteT


    I am proud of you, I love to hear when women throw caution to the wind. I have wanted to leave Chicago for a minute but need to decide where it is I want to
    re-locate to. maybe DC, maybe Boston..

    You have inspired me.

    Thank you

  • Welcome to Parlour, French Kiss! Looking forward to reading more from you for sure.

  • Deion Cooper-Biobaku

    We are often stopped by the limitations we bestow upon ourselves. The only thing guarantee in this world is that we are going to die. Not much of the life list we put for ourselves to obtain is ever fulfilled, we are always life interrupted. Seldom do we come across the bravery to take that leap of faith and go for the gold. As I am getting older I realize a few things. My life list have changed some what and I know longer want gold. Baby I want platinum. I am proud that you my daughter has that vision and the wisdom to know and fully understand that a dream deferred is not a dream at all.

  • chermell

    Im so proud of you. You are living the life you have always dreamed of. Nothing or no one is getting in your way, not even yourself. I love your piece in this magazine. I knew you had the talent of writing. You have alot to offer the world and we want to hear about it. Keep up the great work. I want to know all about Paris before I come visit. I can’t wait!


  • Tan

    There’s nothing wrong with living life to it’s fullest. You only live once and “what could have been” is never worth hearing about. You go girl!

  • Keddins

    I looooove it! Great to hear from you. And it’s great that you are sharing. There are so many people out there to encourage to move forward with their dreams. It’s great that you’ve created a forum to make that happen on a regular basis

  • Leon C

    Great work. Many people look back on life when its too late and wish they had chosen a more adventerous path. Kudos to you for bucking the trend.