…Says the Single Girl: An Open Letter to all Women

Dear Single Girl:

Recently I slept with five different single attractive women in five consecutive nights. Two of them I’d just met the night we had sex. I won’t call them one night stands, well maybe. I know some people are saying I have issues and need to calm down. I’m not putting this out there to be judged but instead to merely spread some encouraging news.

In many of my relationships in the past whether it be a girlfriend for the night or for a long period of time, if she didn’t order me to wear a condom, I didn’t.

Each of the five women insisted on me wearing a condom.

In the past when women asked “Do you have a condom?” often I knew in their tone and in their eyes that there was an opening in their question for me to get over and not wear one. I did want to respect their intentions and it may sound confusing but I truly didn’t believe I was putting someone at risk and while I was selfish I knew, or at least thought I wouldn’t spread a disease or get anyone pregnant. I would sweet talk and say just for a second and when they agreed it was difficult for either one of us to stop. There were times when the woman would say ‘ok condom time’ and I would certainly respect. But these women were stern and I knew it wasn’t going down without protection. I could look into their eyes and tell.

Two of them I just met and was hanging out with them for the first night. I’m a single cat, with a cool fun personality and my game is tight (know the right things to say). When I went out with these chicks, cards were put on the table. I made them all aware that I’m single and they were all aware that I wasn’t trying to be in a committed relationship. I explained that I have “lots of friends.” While I was out with let’s say Monica on our first night of hanging out, we were at a club/lounge on the upper west side. We were with a few other people who made their move onto the dance floor. Monica and I stayed at the table talking. The conversation quickly went from brothers and sisters and Obama to Monica telling me she was attracted to me.

Monica: When was the last time you had sex?

I was completely honest.

Me: Last night.

My words were an aphrodisiac for her and she began to massage me between the legs under the table where we were sitting. She said she wanted to do things to me right now. I happen to like when women do “things” to me and didn’t object. So we left and did some “things” in the back seat of my car.

She might have been a spur of the moment freak but she wasn’t a dummy. The magic question was asked. I felt proud of her, demanding I use a condom. Go girl! I pulled one out of the stash and we engaged in good clean fun.

So, Single Girl, I write to you and your readers to applaud and encourage more women to demand that their dude wear a condom.

We only get away with what you let us.


A Single Man


Dear A Single Man:

Thanks for your honesty.

I know your insight will help many women who feel like if she demands a condom that the dude will leave her. Most women’s greatest fear is being alone.

I’m sure this will touch a nerve.

I look forward to the discussion…

— Says the Single Girl

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