I donâ€™t know about you but this holiday season is kicking my ass. Thereâ€™s one week left until Christmas and I havenâ€™t bought a single present. Hell, Iâ€™m not even partaking in my officeâ€™s Secret Santa. What I look like spending $30 on a co-worker I donâ€™t really care for. Every time I hear a Christmas carol my eyes roll. Then there is the issue of this damn recession. Weâ€™re all in the same place as far as watching our paper but when youâ€™re involved with someone your approach to the holidays (should) change. This got me to thinking and about two things: The Recession and Love. I introduce to you the Recession Love series.
Iâ€™m bad at a lot of things: hellos, goodbye, hugs, remembering birthdays and lastly, presents. Something about the pressure of going shopping, finding the right gift without asking them what they wantâ€¦whew, I just got tired thinking about it. Iâ€™m the type to ask you what you want, have you print it out with a list of stores where I can get it and give it to you unwrapped. Surprises are not my thing.
Itâ€™s not that I donâ€™t want to show how much I value a dude, but Iâ€™m constantly thinking about what the gift means and whether Iâ€™m putting more into it than him. Iâ€™m all about balance and fairness. Canâ€™t go out looking like a sucka. Because of this I usually end up giving â€œsentimental giftsâ€ aka some shit I made myself so if he ends up giving me some wackness itâ€™s no sweat off my back. To date Iâ€™ve given old flames crocheted hats and scarfs (think Common during his E. Badu years), sweaters and a box of condoms. Trust me, I was justified in each case.
Of course when the love is new you try to put a disclaimer out there:
â€œLetâ€™s make a deal, how about we donâ€™t spend more than $50.â€
â€œHow about we just make dinner and stay home.â€
â€œItâ€™s OK with me if we donâ€™t exchange gifts.â€
For the record, no one wants to be the Scrooge and suggest not to buy gifts at all but one of you is always thinking it.
The easiest way to handle X-mas gifting is to add a monetary value for every month youâ€™ve been together. Depending on your financial situation try increments of 10 or 20. This means if you been together six months youâ€™re shelling out anywhere from $60 â€“ $120; ten months = $100 â€“ $200. It doesnâ€™t sound that bad when you think about it, right?
Itâ€™s similar to the rule of the engagement ring: an engagement ring should equal two-three months of your manâ€™s salary. Ladies, donâ€™t hit your man up now trying to figure out if youâ€™d be rocking a cubic or the real thing.
Of course this gift giving formula only applies to relationships 12 months or shorter. If youâ€™ve been with someone for longer than a year, of course you are getting a gift and it better be a good one.
Now that the question of â€œHow much?â€ is answered there is the issue of â€œWhat to give?â€
When I do buy gifts, I am very practical. I like to buy shit that I know is going to be used and not collect dust. I want to purchase a gift that I know will be in use for years to come. Even if we break up I want the next chick to ask where you got so and so from and you have to â€˜fess up, â€œMy ex brought me that.â€ Zing.
Men love clothing, gadget and video games. I donâ€™t buy them that. Iâ€™ve been known to buy microwaves, pillows, toilet bowl cleanersâ€¦things that make his and my life easier. Sue me.
Whatever you decide to spend your money on you need to know that you should, without a doubt, buy your boo a gift. How much you spend and what to buy, Iâ€™ll leave up to you.
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