Diary of a Domme: Introducing Mistress DiDi

Kindergarten is the time where most kids find that they love the taste of paste, but I found I loved the taste of dominance.

When one of my classmates misbehaved, I told him, ‘You need a spanking?’ As I was giving him one, the teacher noticed and stopped our play immediately, but I’d already established his role to serve me. You see, I’d intrinsically known that I was built to dominate and I have evolved my appreciation for whips, chains, wax, knives and of course my stilettos (these are only a few of my favorite toys)  to reward those who properly serve me. I have spent my life cultivating my Fetish Arts for my enjoyment of living and it has become my lifestyle. Before you clutch your pearls or click the small “X” in your browser’s top right corner, give yourself a powerful gift and get educated on exactly what it is to be a Domme (a female Domme; Dom is male).

First, let’s talk about the basics. A true dominance not abusive, the role is about providing the ultimate in care-taking and maintaining an environment where others are permitted to participate on my terms. A submissive is one of the most evolved states of being there is and the role has nothing to do with low self-esteem. A true submissive is able to have so much self-control that she or he is able to freely give over control to please the desires of another. Dommes and subs live in a symbiotic relationship where power is exchanged in mutually agreed upon ways. Safe, sane and consensual activities are the standard for the BDSM (Bondage/Domination/Sado-Masochism) world and anything else is an abomination.

Domm’ing is not an activity for me. It is an art and I am an artist who has invested time, respect and education to become an expert in fetish talent, skill and practice. I categorize myself as a Dominant Sadist, which means I enjoy maintaining the control of my domain and indulging in the pleasures of the fine art of sensory stimulation, including, but not limited to, the administration of pain.  I will never inflict any type of pain on any person without their permission. That’s simply disrespectful and belies a complete lack of etiquette. I am also a Classic Fetish™ Therapist who guides the worthy in their fetish explorations to improve the quality of their lives.

Fetish is more than the pleasure at the tip of your genitals, it helps you enjoy and feel the thrill of life. I train you in proper technique,  safe practices, help you identify the nature of your desires and most importantly, design ways to share your fetish lives with your committed partners because a fetish shouldn’t be self-indulgent. You should want to share with your desires with the one you love.

When you look at life at the most basic level, either you are in control of your situations or you are controlled by them. I prefer to be responsible for mine and affect my environment, rather than be the victim of someone’s hatred, stupidity or both. I experience my fetish choices as an avenue for personal evolution toward being the best that I can be on a continuous basis. I am living my truth and for me and those who join me, there is a beauty that Fetish offers that nothing else can compare to.

– Mistress Didi

Stay tuned for Part 2 of Mistress Didi’s story as we learn what makes her stand out from any other Domme, what it takes to serve her and what celeb she’d love to take under her Domme wing.

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